Ishele Graves

Following My Passion

2010-04-25T06:43:00.001-07:00

Sitting in my office at home at 2AM on a work conference call, I did anything to stay awake. I ate Doritos, chomped on candy and surfed the net...it was either die from a junk food overdose or die of boredom. I read about Jamie Oliver's Food Revolution. "Ha!" I thought, "Jamie better not see me now, Doritos in hand at 2AM". I moved to juicy Hollywood gossip and then finally to check out one of my favorite writers - Liz Gilbert.

The author of the NY Times Best Selling "Eat, Pray, Love" her site was uncomplicated and very yellow. I clicked through the page highlighting her books, then onto her bio, how to book her for speaking engagements and then to a section called "Thoughts on Writing". As I read her comments on how she became a writer, her advice to others wanting to write and the "art" of writing, I couldn't help but think about myself and my own dreams of becoming a "real" writer someday. She wrote, "I became a writer the way other people become monks or nuns. I made a vow to writing very young. I became a Bride-of-Writing"

A "bride of writing" wow - I had never looked at writing this way. I knew a strong commitment was necessary, and of course talent, but being a "bride" really spoke of the commitment she has. I read on, becoming a more starry eyed with her thoughts, "You must find another reason to work, other than the desire for success or recognition. It must come from another place". Goofy as it sounds now - her words resounded with me - reminding me to think about my own devotion and motives for writing.

I admit I've had the occasional daydream of the moment when one of my first best-seller books will be put on show (singular soft, white spotlight beaming down on the books while angels gently sing in the background, "ahhhhhhh") Of course, it would be at the front of a very large book store, my face on the back looking like the distinguished writer I am. People would be lining up to meet me and tell me how ingeniously written the book was.

Ha! Back to reality. All joking aside, I do feel "called" to write and know that if I don't write at least one book before my life is through, I will not have carried out one of my life's purposes. As far as motives go - they are to write about what touches me in hopes that it touches others. I'm a "thinker" and want to write about life's teachable moments and the good that has come out of the hard times in my life. In short, I want to encourage others. A noble sounding cause I know, but Winston Churchill once said, "What is the use of living, if not to strive for noble causes and to make this muddled world a better place for those who will live in it after we are gone"

For now, I'm continuing to have my occasional "dates" with my writing while I carry on my life married to a wonderful man and raising my four children with him. For years, I've struggled with pursuing my dream and fulfilling my duty as a mom and wife but what mom doesn't?? I've come to accept that my career as a writer won't happen over night but have also come to realize that with my heart constantly nudging and tugging me towards writing - it won't be a passion that will die easy.

I'll get there. I need to learn how to just put my writing "out there" and be less of a perfectionist about it. I'll continue to fight to carve out time for it so that me and writing can get more acquainted and comfortable with each other and perhaps eventually move on to "marriage". Like Liz Gilbert, I'll need equal parts passion, devotion and dreaming sprinkled with hard work and determination. She wrote that her goal at the age of 19 was to get something (anything) published before she died. I think that seems like a realistic goal for me too. People do it every day.

Fashionista Black Belt Kicks Butt On the Greenbelt

2010-03-28T15:08:00.000-07:00

Studying myself in the mirror I turned side to side. “Stacy and Clinton would definitely disapprove of this look” I thought. (Stacy and Clinton are they are the hosts of one of my favorite shows “What Not to Wear”) Nothing felt right, but then again, I wasn’t headed to Fashion Week, I was going mountain biking on the greenbelt. I stood staring from bottom to top. I was well equipped for the quest, clunky but sturdy black hiking shoes, padded spandex biking shorts underneath my camouflage pants and a breathable hot pink polyester shirt to top it off. Eeek! I felt like a fish out of water. “Okay, why am I doing this again?” I asked. “Ahhh..I know” Like finding my favorite little black dress, I smiled and thought back to where this all began.

I wanted to change my name to Kirk when I was five, only problem was I was a girl. I guess tomboy-hood is not every girl’s rite of passage, but as fate would have it, I seemed to be cut out perfectly to fit the role. Our family lived in a neighborhood packed with boys, so naturally I was forced to either to hang with them and be one of them or bored to tears at home. My buddies and I built forts, took long bike rides, got dirty making mud pies and climbed trees as far as we dared. We had a blast. Some girls never stop being tomboys, but not me. The spark to transform was lit under me when I was around 12. It didn’t take long to realize that I could either continue being the girl who ran with the boys or be the one the boys ran after. Boys didn’t run after girls with dirt on their face, mud under their nails and holy jeans. As it turns out they tended to like girls who did up their hair, had polish on their nails and wore sweet frilly things. After trying it out for a while, I decided it was definitely more fun being run after. I never grew out of being prissy, but deep down I’m still the tomboy who threw rocks and ran around climbing trees without a shirt.

Flashing back to present time I took one last, less-disapproving look in the mirror and headed out. I was in for an adventure. When my husband Ron and I arrived at the bike shop to get our bikes, the snotty bike clerk with nose rings and tattoos up and down his arms looked me squarely asking my husband “you’re taking her on the greenbelt?” Who the heck did he think he was talking to? Obviously it was my pink top and Coach purse sitting on the counter that threw him off. “Don’t let my good taste in handbags throw you off buddy” I thought. “Sheesh!” I was determined now.

Soon we were off, crossing Lamar and headed down Barton Springs to the greenbelt. Arriving at the greenbelt entrance near the Barton Springs pool. Most of the people coming out of this area were rugged, serious-looking mountain bikers. I didn’t notice any women. Some of the guys were beat up, bruised and worse – bleeding. “No missing teeth” I thought “that’s where I draw the line”. “Are you sure you want go?” Ron asked “Heh”, I laughed nervously “of course!” “Oh crap, what have I gotten myself into” I thought.

The beginning of the trail wasn’t so bad. Despite the dust, large rocks, pot holes and occasional tree trunks sticking out from the ground it was pretty easy to navigate around the major hazards. I soon found my trusty mountain bike easily would hop right over these painful roadblocks. We continued on about a mile and a half passing a spot Ron pointed out. “Look honey there it is” he shouted. Just a month earlier he had taken a nose dive after his front tire got caught between two rocks and chipped his front tooth. At this point, the trail started to get scary. I underestimated a large boulder and took my first fall, breaking the skin on my shin with the metal pedal. I had been initiated now and soon the dirt from the trail covered my bloody leg in a fine dust that looked like cocoa powder. “Good thing my shoes are black” I thought. Then under my breath, “what’s wrong with me? I’m riding a stinking mountain bike with bleeding, bruised legs risking my neck and I’m still thinking about my shoes?”

We proceeded on to an even narrower, unforgiving path that seemed determined at each twist, turn and bump to knock me off my bike. To my left was a steep ledge, to the right boulders the size of an 18-wheeler tire. Neither was an appealing place to fall. Thankfully, I could see Ron too had had enough and he soon asked if I was ready to turn around to gentler paths. “Sure” I huffed thinking “thank God almighty – I made it through alive” I proudly rode my way out of the greenbelt hopping curbs and even racing down a steep hill.

We ended our journey with what I thought would be a smooth ride on the 8-mile Town Lake jogging trail. Wouldn’t you know it, a rude biker ran me off the trail? Oh, the irony. I flew off my bike with such force that my helmet came lose. My newly inflated ego was as flat as a pancake now; it had taken a swift jab from the trail which along with all the joggers around me seemed to be snickering hysterically. Beaten, bruised and fresh blood on both my legs I hopped up quickly, whispering loud curses at the man who ran me off. We continued our ride back to our car where two very sympathetic tourists offered me peroxide and band aids.

Satisfied my adventures for the day had settled all doubts in my husbands’ head that I could still run like a boy; we headed to a local restaurant where we sipped strong fruity margaritas until dusk. Maybe it was the tequila, the mariachi music or maybe it was the satisfaction that I had truly proven myself to still be a tomboy at heart; whatever the case, I couldn’t stop beaming ear to ear. After dinner, buzzing from the alcohol we strolled into a swanky shoe store. Me in dirty, blood-stained cloths and Ron still looking fabulous of course, paraded around the store getting lots of second looks from the other shoppers. I didn’t care, after all I had been through I deserved to be here! I tried on heels until I found the most marvelous pair of stilettos. Sold! Maybe a girl can have her heels and still kick butt on the greenbelt.

Feeding Your Dog Table Food is Nothing to Wag About

2009-11-11T07:02:00.000-08:00

What’s good for humans is not always the best for our pets. According to the American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (ASPCA), people food is number three on the list of the “Top 10 Pet Poisons of 2008.” Handing Fido a table scrap is a common mistake that a lot of us make because dogs, like people, enjoy eating things that aren’t always good for them. Thoughts of chocolate cake, doughnuts or a juicy cheeseburger and fries are enough to set our mouths salivating even if it does hold the promise of some extra pounds on our waistline. The effects of feeding our pets some of these same foods can be much more serious than a bulging belly. For dogs, some of these foods can even be deadly. Here’s a closer look at some harmful foods you should avoid giving your canine pals.

Chocolate and Caffeine
Half of all calls to the Animal Poison Control in 2008 were a result of chocolate poisoning. Known for its positive effects on humans –both caffeine and chocolate have the opposite effect on dogs. Our delightful treats contain the theobromine, a chemical that’s very harmful to dogs and other animals. Even small amounts of coffee, tea, soda or chocolate can cause harmful effects to your pet. Signs of theobromine poisoning in animals can range from vomiting to diarrhea as well as panting, excessive thirst, urination, hyperactivity, and in severe cases, abnormal heart rhythm, tremors and seizures. Dark and unsweetened chocolate tend to be more damaging since they contain more of the theobromine chemical. According to the Merck Veterinary manual, A typical 44 lb dog will normally experience intestinal distress after eating less than 8.5 oz of dark chocolate and a typical 1 oz baker's chocolate bar would be enough to bring out symptoms in the same dog.

Grapes and Raisins
According to the ASPCA, giving your canine as few as 7 or 8 grapes can prove to be toxic. Scientists are not exactly sure why, but grapes and raisins can cause kidney failure in many animals. Since giving a dog grapes or raisins can affect his liver, the effects (if given even in small amounts consistently) are cumulative and most likely causes long-term damage. If your dog shows abnormal hyperactivity or throws up repeated your dog may be in danger of food poison and you should call a vet or a emergency animal hospital right away.

Avocado
Sounds unbelievable, right? But yes, there are people who feed their dogs this seemingly harmless fruit. Avocado contains a substance called persin that is harmless to humans but is highly toxic to most animals (including dogs). It can also cause damage to the heart, lung and other tissue in animals. Additionally, the high fatty content in avocados can physically provoke severe stomach problems, vomiting, or even worse, pancreatitis. Interesting enough, small amounts of avocado and avocado oils are used in several dog foods but are deemed safe due to the processing (cooking) of the food.

Alcohol
Alcohol is very dangerous to canines and should not be given to them at all. It can severely damage your dogs’ liver and brain and even just a little can cause vomiting, diarrhea, central nervous system depression, problems with coordination, coma and even death.

Onions or Garlic
Feeding your dog onions or garlic may not seem to have a negative effect on them other than stinky breath but the potential danger lies internally. Onions or anything that comes from the onion family contains sulfoxides and disulfides, which are known to cause damage to an animals’ red blood cells. Whether it is powdered, cooked or raw, these common garnishes can eventually lead to anemia if given to your dog too often. If your dog eats something with garlic or onions there is no need to panic because usually the effects of these tubers occur over time, but it is better to avoid them if you can, especially if you have cats because they are more susceptible to
the toxins than dogs.

Gum and Candy
Gum and candy, especially sugarless products can be toxic to your dog. Anything containing Xylitol, a common sweetener found in some diet and sugar free products, can cause a sudden drop in an animal's blood sugar, loss of coordination and seizures. The Xylitol compound has been linked to liver failure and even death. Dr. Mike Richards, DVM, a veterinarian in Tidewater, Virginia states “It is possible your vet will not be familiar with this source of poisoning as this information is fairly new, and candies have not usually been associated with poisonings in dogs if they did not contain chocolate as the major ingredient.”

Common Plants
Although they add beauty to a home, plants are also responsible for many pet medical emergencies. The most common poisonous plants are lilies, sago palm, tulip/ narcissus bulbs, azalea, oleander, castor bean, cyclamen, amaryllis, chrysanthemum, English ivy, peace lily, pathos and schefflera. And, while poinsettias are believed to be very poisonous, they are only a mild irritant to an animal if the milky sap of the leaf is digested. The holiday plant to really look out for is Mistletoe, which is very toxic to animals.

Over the counter medicine
Hide medicine from your pets just like you would from your children. The most common cause of pet poisoning is from animals ingesting a medicine or drug normally prescribed for humans. And this is not just because furry pals are getting into their pet parent's medicine cabinets. In many cases, pet owners give their feline and canine friends an over-the-counter medication to ease an animal's pain. But acetaminophen and ibuprofen, the active ingredients in many common pain relievers, are extremely toxic to dogs and cats. They can cause gastric ulcers, liver damage, kidney failure and sometimes death to pets.

[SIDEBAR]
If You Must Indulge Your Pet Try These

If you must slip a treat to Fido under the table you may consider one of the following:
(As always, every pet’s health varies and before you give him any of these you should consult your veterinarian.)

Lean Meat
Any lean meat such as chicken breast, lamb or beef that is cooked should be okay for most dogs. Avoid feeding your pet meats that are high in fat. Too much fat can lead to an upset stomach or even pancreatis. Never give your dog meat with the bone in it. As your dog chews the bone it can be split into many small splinters that can cause harmful obstructions in their intestinal tract. Animals can easily choke on the bones as well. (Pressed bone is usually the best type of bone for dogs and you can find these at any pet food store.)

Vegetables
We all need our veggies so while we’re enjoying our carrot sticks, green beans or cucumber you can give one to your dog – just avoid the ranch dressing!

Some Fruits
If your pet has a sweet tooth, try apple slices, orange slices, bananas or even a bit of watermelon. Be sure to take the seeds out of the watermelon because they are not good for your pet.

Bread
Although bread is not always best for our carb intake, plain cooked bread is just fine for Fido. Bread with raisins, nuts or chocolate should be avoided though.

Rice and pasta
Plain, cooked pasta and white rice tend to be gentlest when it comes to our pet’s digestive systems. Many homemade dog food recipes contain rice or cooked pasta, especially for animals that tend to have sensitive stomachs.

In Case of Emergency
Accidents happen! So, when your dog sneaks that chocolate bar out of your purse or snatches the grapes from the picnic basket, stay calm. If you see your pet consuming anything you think might be toxic, seek emergency help immediately even if she or he is not exhibiting any symptoms.

In case of suspected food poisoning, call your local veterinarian or the ASPCA Animal Poison Control Center at (888) 426-4435.

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Worst Foods for Other Common Household Pets
People food is also harmful to other common household pets. See what you should be avoiding with them as well:

Cats
Just like dogs, cats are susceptible to illness and discomfort from chocolate, grapes and raisins, onion, garlic and most cows’ milks. Also, cats should not eat commercial dog food because of the added substance called taurine, that may cause blindness in felines over a period of time.

Birds
Chocolate, apple seeds, avocado (especially avocado skin), onions and garlic, mushrooms, tomato leaves and dried beans are all foods you should avoid feeding your bird. Cooked rice is okay but too much dried rice can expand in a bird’s stomach making it very harmful. That’s why most weddings today have shied away from tossing it at the bride and groom.

Rabbits
For those with rabbits as pets, avoid feeding them fruit seeds such as apple, pear, apricot and peach. Other foods your rabbit should avoid is avocados, mushrooms, certain nuts and roots like almonds, soy, bamboo shoots and mangoes. Now you would think that lettuce would be a safe bet for your bunny but it contains lactucarium, which can give your rabbit severe diarrhea that it becomes fatal.

New articles!

2009-08-20T19:44:00.000-07:00

Okay, so here is the fruit of my work from earlier this year. An article I wrote for an insurance firm...a far cry from O Magazine (where of course I'd love to work!!) but hey, it's a start!!

I'm Back!!

2009-07-19T13:29:00.000-07:00

Okay, so I haven't posted to my blog for ummm...a very long time. Lots of reasons, but I'm making a new comittment to do this. What can I say - I can barely go to the bathroom by myself these days. Four kids, a husband and a very demanding job squeeze almost every spare minute out of me. I spent about six months freelance writing some commercial stuff but decided that it was becoming more "work" than fun to write about things like insurance, finance and health. The thing is I've really missed writing about things I love and am passionate about. Things like my children and what they teach me, my spiritual walk and anything else interesting life decides to throw my way. There isn't a day that has gone by that I haven't thought about writing - so here I am. Expect to see stories soon. (I'm working on one now).

What's Your New Years Tax Resolution?

2008-10-14T11:32:00.000-07:00

12 Simple Tax Savings Tips for 2009

Reducing your tax bill is much simpler than you may think. When it comes to shelling out your hard earned cash to Uncle Sam, there are easy things to do that will enable you to save money on your taxes and in many cases will even give you a return on your investment. You might also be thinking now that December 31st has come and gone and you’ve lost any further chance for a 2008 tax savings, but that simply isn’t true. Here are 12 straightforward tips to save money on your 2008 taxes and plan for 2009.

1. Contribute to your 401K retirement fund. Most employers offer a 401K program and in many cases will match your contributions throughout the year. This offers a wonderful way to save for retirement. The added benefit is that whatever is paid to your 401K is deducted from your gross pay prior to taxes thus reducing the overall income tax you pay.

{SIDEBAR} The 401K Match Game: Keep in mind that you will have a maximum allowable per year for what you can set aside but this does not include any employer matches. Most employers who offer a 401K program will offer some type of equivalent, for instance 25 to 50 cents for each dollar you contribute. No matter what the amount is, if an employer pitches into you’re plan then you’ve just added to your annual investment!

2. Make a Catch Up Contribution. If you’re 50 or older, make a catch-up payment to your employer-sponsored retirement account. The Economic Growth and Tax Relief Reconciliation Act of 2001 (EGTRRA) created this provision so that older individuals would be able to set aside enough savings for retirement. Just like a regular retirement account, any amount you pay in is pulled from your pre-tax gross income meaning you pay less income tax.

3. Make a charitable donation. Americans are generous. In 2007 alone, we gave an estimated $300 billion to charitable organizations. It feels good to give but it's also nice to see your donations pay off as a tax deduction too. Clean out your closets or garage and take your unwanted items to Goodwill, The Salvation Army or another charitable organization. Just make sure you get a receipt. Gifts to charity, whether they are cash, goods or services, are all deductible.

{SIDEBAR} Qualified Charitable Organizations: If you donate money or property to a "qualified organization" (see list below for examples) your donation can be deducted, but beware that there are limits and if you don’t itemize using Schedule A on form 1040, you cannot claim your charitable contributions. Here are some types of organizations that can qualify you for a tax deduction:

•Churches, synagogues, temples, mosques and other religious organizations.
• Federal, state and local governments, if your contribution is used for public purposes.
• Nonprofit schools and hospitals.
• Public parks and recreation facilities.
• Salvation Army, Red Cross, CARE, Goodwill, United Way, Boy and Girl Scouts, etc.
• War veterans' groups.

4. Participate in a flexible spending plan or FSA. An FSA will allow you to set aside a portion of your earnings to pay for qualified expenses. Money deducted from your salary into an FSA is not subject to payroll taxes and therefore results in a substantial tax savings on your pay check. Whether you pay for child care, have out-of-pocket medical expenses such as co-pays, over-the-counter medicines, medical equipment or other items, you can most likely submit your receipts to your flexible spending account. Beware though when you’re deciding on how much to contribute, keep in mind there are usually limits and that if you do not use it by the end of the year you may lose it.

5. Make energy efficient home improvements. Thanks to the Energy Policy Act of 2005, Uncle Sam is now encouraging taxpayers to invest in home improvements that make our homes more energy efficient. By using systems that include energy resources such as solar, a one-time tax credit can be applied to improvements made on your primary residence (not rental property). If you’re building a new home, ask your builder to seek the tax credit for making it a high-performance home. It's a "win-win" situation when you can save on your taxes as well as your energy bills and let’s not forget you’ll be helping the environment too.

6. Deduct expenses for your home business. When you use part of your home for business, you may be able to deduct expenses for what the IRS calls the "business use of your home." If you meet the requirements, you should be able to claim a percentage of many of the costs of running your home, for example utilities, rent, insurance, depreciation, mortgage interest, real estate taxes, and some casualty losses, repairs, and improvements (if they relate to the part of the house you use for business). The great news is that home office deduction is available to renters and homeowners alike.

{Sidebar} What Qualifies As a Home Office? Your home office must be a place that is used exclusively and regularly for your trade or business. If you use your garage to do mechanical repairs or a greenhouse near your home to grow plants for sale these would qualify as home offices.

7. Itemize your deductions. It can pay to itemize your deductions instead of taking the standard ones allowed by the IRS. For instance, using a Form 1040 Schedule A, you can claim medical and dental expenses, mortgage interest, charitable and employee expenses not paid for by an employer. The object is to have your total itemized deductions greater than the applicable standard ones; this lends itself to having a lower taxable income.

8. Contribute to an Individual Retirement Account (IRA). When it comes to Individual Retirement Accounts (IRA’s), you have several choices. All offer some tax savings. The general IRA deduction limit is $5,000 and there is an additional $1,000 for filers over 50. Be sure to keep in mind that when it comes to IRA’s, whatever you put in will not be a direct tax write off but rather will result in giving you a lower adjusted gross income. The less taxable income you have, the smaller the check you have to send to the IRS; this coupled with saving for your retirement is another “win- win” situation. An added benefit of contributing to IRA’s is that you can add money until April and have it counted on the previous year’s tax return.

9. Contribute to a 529 plan. A 529 college savings plan is a very simple way to save money for your kids' (or anyone else's) college education. The benefits are tremendous. One of which is that you pay no taxes on the account's earnings. Another plus is that the child doesn't have control of or access to the account, you do. If the child decides not to go to college then you can roll the account over to another family member.

{SIDEBAR} The 411 on the 529: Anyone can contribute to a 529 account (grandparents, aunts, uncles etc). There are no income limitations that might make you ineligible for an account and most states have no age limit for when the money has to be used. If the child gets a scholarship, any unused money can be withdrawn without paying any penalty (just the tax).

10. Pay your January Mortgage payment in December. A little year-end attention to your mortgage could lower your upcoming IRS bill. Unlike rent, which you pay beforehand, your mortgage payments are made at the end of your occupancy period. That means your Jan. 1 mortgage statement represents interest for the month of December, making it a tax-break-eligible bill for this year. By accelerating that payment even by just a day (Dec. 31, if your financial institution is open for business then), you get an additional deduction for the interest paid. Don't get greedy, though. You can't make your February, or any other upcoming mortgage payment, early to boost your year-end deduction amounts. Each year, you can deduct only that home mortgage interest for that year.

11. Rent out your second or vacation home. If you rent your vacation or second home to paying guests fewer than 14 days per year, regardless of the amount of rent received, that rent need not be reported on your income tax returns. Maybe it’s not an astronomical number but any tax savings is a good one.

12. Deduct your student loan interest. You are eligible to deduct some, if not all, of the interest you paid on your educational loans (that’s money used to pay for education expenses only). The deduction is based on the interest paid on the loan during the previous tax year with a maximum deduction of $2,500. Restrictions on income limits apply. Check with your tax advisor to see if you qualify. Even if you don't itemize deductions when you file a tax return you can still claim this interest to reduce your taxes.

Tax laws can vary from year to year, so it is essential to keep up with the changes if you want to maximize your savings. If you’re not comfortable with keeping up with tax law yourself, use a CPA or tax software such as Turbo Tax with a “deduction finder”. You may be able to take advantage of some or all of these tips depending on your age, lifestyle and financial standing. No matter what the changes are, it’s good to know you can be smarter with your money while making it work harder for you.

Beating the Common Cold and Flu Virus (To Be Published)

2008-10-10T07:28:00.000-07:00

Beating the Common Cold and Flu Virus

Cut your chances of catching it before it catches you.

Between November and March millions of us succumb to the flu and common cold viruses. Those who are most vulnerable and often struck the hardest are children and the elderly. Unfortunately, there is no magic pill or formula from immunizing 100% against these viruses. Each season despite our best efforts, employers spend billions of dollars shelling out sick pay and over 200,000 of us end up in the hospital. These fierce bugs can be picked up anywhere – home, work, at the bank or grocery store and if your immune system isn’t up for the fight you can almost guarantee you’ll catch the latest and greatest version of the virus. With all this said, how do we protect ourselves and the ones we love? Here’s a list of tried and true, expert recommended ways to stay healthy during the flu and cold season as well as what to do once it hits.

Prevention is the Key
Take your best shot. A flu shot that is. A vaccination will you lower your chances of getting the virus significantly. In fact, a flu shot offers 70-90% protection against the bug. Studies have also shown that those who have been immunized and still catch the virus have much less severe cases than those who have not. According to the Center for Disease Control (CDC), adults older than 50 and children 6 months to 5 years are strongly recommended to have the vaccine because of their higher vulnerability. See your doctor to find out more.

Hand-to-hand combat.

Stock up on hand sanitizers. Researchers at Children’s Hospital in Boston studied 292 families for 5 months and found that families who carried hand sanitizers with them had 59% fewer cases of stomach bugs than non-users. To use your sanitizer correctly, squirt out enough gel into your hands so they still feel damp and rub them together for 10 to 15 seconds – just as if washing your hands. By using your sanitizer correctly and often (especially when out in public) you can reduce your exposure to germs.

Your pen is mightier than the rest.

As minor of a detail as it sounds – cold and flu germs are passed most often from hand-to-hand contact, so anything you can do to avoid touching objects that are frequently handled by the general public is going to cut your risk. Carry a few extra pens around with you everywhere you go and steer clear of using the community pen at the doctor’s office, bank, restaurant or wherever you may be.

Let it just wash over you.

Your mother knew what she was talking about when she told you to wash your hands constantly. Research has shown that by washing our hands at least five times a day you can significantly reduce your chances of illness. Experts agree that washing our hands often with soap and water is an easy and effective way to stay healthy year round.
Catch some zzzz’s. Lack of sleep is an invitation for the flu. If our body doesn’t get the rest it needs, our immune system wears down. If you’re too physically worn out, the flu shot and vitamins will not be as effective. In fact, researchers found that those who slept only 4 hours a night for 1 week produced only half the amount of antibodies (even with a flu shot) compared with those who slept 7 1/2 to 8 1/2 hours each night.

Friends don’t let friends get sick.

Yes, research has shown that having a good social network of friends makes you a healthier person all around. Don’t believe us? Carnegie Mellon doctors conducted a study involving 83 college freshmen, all given a flu shot. Those with a larger group of friends produced more bug-fighting antibodies while students who kept to themselves and reported being lonely actually produced lower amounts of anti-bodies.

One a day keeps the flu away.

Your basic multi-vitamin is also an effective weapon against the cold and flu. Often we are drawn to super concentrations of vitamins and herbs as well as airborne pills and other cold preventers but these really aren’t necessary. Look for a one-a-day multi with 100% of the recommended daily values of vitamins A, B6, B12, C, and D, as well as the minerals chromium, copper, folic acid, selenium, calcium, and zinc. Be sure to take your vitamin with a full glass of water and a meal that consists of a little fat so your body can absorb the nutrients better.

Let’s get physical.

Just 3 hours a day of moderate activity (walking, climbing stairs or tennis) will cut your chances of getting sick by 35%. Moderate activity not your thing? UCLA researchers also found that tai chi, the Chinese practice of slow movements, meditation, and breathing, decreases the release of catecholamine, a neurotransmitter that weakens the immune system. One study in particular showed that just three sessions a week for 4 months improved immune cell function by 45% in adults with shingles.

Coming to a town near you.

Keep up with the health of your community by watching the news or going to http://www.flustar.com/ and entering your zip code. Knowing if a flu outbreak is in your community or coming your way will be helpful in deciding whether to hit the movie theater or rent movies on the weekend. Taking extra precautions to avoid public places during an outbreak will reduce your chances of exposure.

Bitten by the bug?
Call in the reinforcements. If you start to feel the telltale aches and pains see your doctor and ask for an antiviral medication like Tamiflu or Relenza. Both of these medications are 60 to 90% effective as long as they are taken within 48 hours of exposure. Remember these medications are made specifically for the flu, so it’s important to see your doctor in person in order to let him diagnose you properly. This will help you avoid paying for medication that isn’t necessary and possibly experiencing side effects from medication you just don’t need.

On the brink? Take Zinc.

Zinc, if taken at first sign of the flu can help prevent or lessen the duration of your cold. This power-punching vitamin releases ions that stop the common cold virus from maturing and attaching to your airways. It’s most helpful if taken shortly after you suspect being exposed. Places where exposure is high (like on a plane) are instances when taking zinc is smart. Take either a zinc gluconate or zinc actate without flavoring agents like citric or tartaric acids because these appear to inhibit its preventive abilities.

Is Your Money Secure (To Be Published)

2008-10-10T06:31:00.000-07:00

Here's my first published article (coming out January 2009). It's for a small insurance magazine and is distributed to it's policy holders on a quarterly basis.

Is Your Money Secure?
Important facts to know about your bank, broker and mortgage company.

These are some scary times in the world’s financial markets. With the failure of so many banks and mortgage companies, we’ve been left questioning the safety of our money and our homes. Even if your household hasn’t been affected directly, the fact that our government passed a $700 billion economic bailout recently is enough to send shivers down most of our spines. So what’s next? Here are the answers to some of the most common questions as it relates to the security of your finances. Hopefully this will set your mind at ease a little when it comes to your money that you’ve worked so hard for.

BANKS

What if my bank is on the brink of bankruptcy? Good news! As long as your financial institution is FDIC insured you have nothing to worry about. The FDIC guarantee is ironclad, so regardless of your banks financial standing your money is safe. Keep in mind that funds are only covered up to $100,000 for the total of all your accounts within one company. If the amount of cash exceeds $100,000, move the excess to a different FDIC insured bank.

Are all my accounts safe? All account types are covered, whether it’s a credit union, checking, savings, retirement or money market as long as your banking institution is insured by the FDIC. For IRA’s and other types of retirement accounts all deposits in these types of accounts are added together and insured up to $250,000 per person. For example, if you have both a regular and Roth IRA totaling $350,000 you are guaranteed up to $250,000 at that bank.

What about my money market account? Your money market account is covered but will be combined with all other accounts in your name. Funds that you keep in a money-market mutual find are now insured too. Thanks to the US Treasury, a one-year temporary guaranty program for taxable and tax-free money market funds is now in effect using a fund that was created during the Depression. Keep in mind that a fee must be paid to participate. By paying this fee guarantees you that your share price remains a constant $1.

How can I be sure all my funds are covered? If you are still anxious about your money you can check the FDIC web site (http://www.fdic.gov/) or the National Credit Union Administration’s site (http://www.ncua.gov/). Both sites have calculators that allow you to plug in all your accounts and the amounts deposited so you can find out whether your money is insured.

BROKERS
What happens if my broker goes belly up? You can breathe a sigh of relief since brokerage firms are required to follow very strict rules when it comes to a client’s money verses their own. So for example, even if your brokerage firm or broker goes under, your accounts should remain intact. How does this work? Stocks, bonds and mutual funds are all physically held by an independent institution not the broker or the firm.

What happens if my firm mishandles my assets? Nearly every firm is registered with the Securities Investor Protection Corporation (SIPC). The SIPC was created specifically to restore funds to investors. If your broker fails, the SIPC will first try to transfer your securities to another firm. If that doesn’t work, then they will work to rebuild portfolios, even buying new stocks or bonds to make up for missing shares. If the investments aren’t available, SIPC will give you cash based on their value when the brokerage failed.

How much am I covered if my broker goes under? The SIPC covers up to $500,000 per account and has a $100,000 limit on cash. If you have more than $500,000 at one brokerage the limit will apply only to the maximum amount of its own money SIPC will spend to make up for any missing securities, not the total amount you get back. A fact to rest easy over is that over the history of the SIPC only 349 people have not received the full value of their shares back.

Once the SIPC takes over how do I get my money? Be ready to wait between one week and as long as two to three months to gain access to your money once the SIPC takes over. Understandably, it takes them some time to sort things out especially when the broker was involved in fraud or kept poor records. Keep in mind that the SIPC does not protect you against market losses while your account is in transition between your broker and the SIPC

MORTGAGE LENDERS

What happens if my mortgage company shuts down? Continue paying your mortgage – this is your lenders problem not yours. During the bankruptcy process your loan will be transferred to a new owner or “servicer” and you will be notified by letter once the change occurs. If you mail your payment to the old lender by mistake, don’t worry you won’t owe a late fee or be penalized if you are within the federally mandated 60-day grace period after the transfer takes place. It’s wise during this period to keep careful records of your payments and any correspondence.

What about my escrow and taxes? This is your money, held in trust and will not be part of your lender’s bankruptcy assets. Once the new servicer takes your loan over they will resume making the tax insurance payments from your account. During the transfer period and for some time afterwards, be sure to carefully check over your monthly statements. Double check your escrow account, if anything seems fishy call your lender, insurance company or your local property tax office to be sure payments are being made and are current.

Uniquely Austin – Unmistakably Cool

2008-09-19T08:13:00.000-07:00

I heard not too long ago Zilker Park was coined the “Central Park” of Austin and though I expect many New Yorkers would beg to differ (most politely I’m sure) one can imagine in a uniquely Austin kind of way that Zilker Park embodies the spirit of Austin just as Central Park is the heartbeat of New York City. Regardless of age, gender or time of year there is always something entertaining to do. Like to swim? Take a dip in the natural spring fed Barton Springs pool featuring 68 degree year round water temperature. Chilly, I know, but next to a giant grape snow cone, the pool is hands down the perfect remedy for a hot August day in Austin. Outdoorsy? Take a canoe ride on the picturesque Lady Bird Lake brimming with a colorful assortment of ducks and swans. Walk the shoreline and they eagerly waddle right up to you hungry and expectant for goodies. If water isn’t your thing walk, jog or bike the over 50 miles of tree-lined hike and bike trails where at several rest spots you can find ice cold water provided year round - truly a joggers paradise. For the kids (and kids at heart) there is a colossal playscape covering several acres. The centerpiece is the famous life sized fire truck where kids can be seen taking their turn climbing into the driver’s seat while make believing they are on their way to put out an imaginary fire. Next to the playground is the historic “Zilker Zephyr” miniature train giving an entertaining twenty minute ride year round to anyone who cares for a scenic tour of the park. Did I mention the events at Zilker? If you haven’t walked the Zilker “Trail of Lights” at Christmas then you truly haven’t done Austin. The spectacular display of Christmas lights puts Clark Griswold to shame and is a must see if you ever visit Austin. Summing up Zilker’s magic is one of the U.S.’s longest continuously running kite festivals, the “piece de resistance” of Zilker, the Annual Zilker Kite Festival. Held annually in March, rain or shine you can see any size, shape or color of kite imaginable. I was fascinated at last year’s festival to see a gigantic pair of men’s pants with dangling legs soaring in the sky (fake of course)-anything goes at the festival. The downtown Austin horizon is spotted with thousands of kites, truly a site to see and definitely something not to miss. From afar you can see them dotting the sky like tiny exclamation points. Central Park or not, Zilker has toped my list of favorite places in Austin since I first laid eyes on it over thirty years ago. It is a “must see” if you visit Austin and a “must do” if you really want to say you’re a truly cool Austinite.

Chic Shoes that Won't Break the Bank

2008-09-18T06:44:00.001-07:00

Fall is a fabulous time to find hip shoes and Nine West is the brand I love to shop. I value being able to walk in to nearly any reputable department store, make a beeline to the Nine West shelf and take my pick; flirtatious, sexy, smart, sporty or professional - there is always something to suit any occasion. Recently as I shopped, I was especially thrilled to see the vibrant fall line, making it all the more enjoyable to choose the very latest pair for my collection. Deep plum pumps in suede, buttery gold’s in metallic or suede, brilliant red peep toe sling backs and vibrant blue stiletto’s, how does a girl choose from such an extraordinary assortment? After much deliberation, I decide on a pair of crimson and black snake printed Mary Jane’s with double straps, a platform front and a rubber bottom for comfort. Complete the package with four inch heels and these shoes are not only hot but built for comfort (don’t forget the rubber bottom) two things hard to find in a stylish shoe. Since I am also just shy of five feet three inches, I also determine adding an extra four inches to my legs won’t hurt (smoke and mirrors baby- smoke and mirrors).
Priced at $89.00 they fall into the moderate cost category considering that I saw three other similar styles just yesterday at Nordstrom’s for between $300.00 and $400.00. Note to self: at this price I should pick up at least two other pairs but regrettably I resolve to stick to my budget and come back next month to treat myself again. Some may argue that the availability of these shoes is a downfall, because again they are somewhat easy to come by however, I see this as a plus. I mean, we all need that one or two pairs of shoes in our wardrobe that some girls of us refer to as “investment” pieces but let’s face it, in today’s tight economy a girl must practice wise spending habits and stretch her dollar as far as it can go. So I thank you Nine West - the price, style, comfort and availability has given me much satisfaction over the years. I’m off to meetings sporting my new crimson and black snake printed Mary Jane’s with double straps, they compliment my new outfit to perfection.

Clashing Isn't Always a Bad Thing

2008-09-13T12:23:00.000-07:00

This is a story I wrote almost two years ago. My aunt Pat requested it back so here it is...

As my six year old Mikaela and I shopped for new shoes my stress began to build. Our trip to the mall had ensued promptly after a meeting with her teachers who asked me not to send her to school anymore wearing her most favorite pair of iridescent pink cowgirl boots. Mikaela has Pervasive Development Disorder (PDD), a condition which largely affects fine and gross motor skills and also causes speech delays. The boots, as fabulous as they were, had not been offering her feet enough support. But worse, her teachers notified me was that they were causing her to trip and fall more frequently while at school. Immediately, I knew the change in shoes would not be an easy task as children with PDD often display many of the same traits as autistic children. My Mikaela, like many autistic children is quite obstinate to changes . Knowing this, I
had wearily prepared myself for what I knew would be the shoe shopping “Olympics”. As we walked the mall, like an athlete in training, I thought of everything I could to convince her a new pair of shoes was a good thing. We had already stopped at four places with no luck - none of the bribing or reasoning in my well prepared arsenal had worked. It was “Mikaela four - mom zip” and I was losing the game. Exhausted, I had presented what seemed like hundreds of different shoes and continually received firm “no’s”.

As I was beginning to feel there was no hope left, she found them. Twinkling like a beacon in the night, sat a pair of bright, red patent leather Mary Jane’s. The shoes sparkled under the fluorescent store lights like an obnoxious Christmas ornament. Mikaela's eye's lit up, she stood still, momentarily mesmerized. She quickly seemed to come to her senses, grabbed the box and running proudly towards me shouted “I want these!” I stood there in a state of panic, my mind scrambling to think of how I would talk her out of them. I prayed they didn't have her size but to my dismay they fit her like a glove. “What about these nice black ones, don’t you like these better?” I asked. “No way!” she insisted. I knew her mind had been made up and there was no chance I would change it. I had wanted to find her every day school shoes so I quickly took a mental inventory of Mikaela’s wardrobe. Thoughts of the fashion police knocking at my door immediately entered my mind. Practically everything in her wardrobe would clash with these red shoes. As I started to literally pull her away from the shoes, I stopped myself. They did have special insoles and that was good for supporting her feet. She also adored them and this would mean drama-free mornings for both of us. Logically it made sense but from a fashion sense they screamed NO! I finally conceded and bought her the shoes but not before checking the store over very thoroughly to make sure we couldn't’t find anything more fashionably versatile. As we walked out of the store I had to laugh, we had both won the game but only my Mikaela would cross the finish line in such a brilliantly shiny and bright red pair of shoes that glistened on her feet like Dorothy’s red ruby slippers in the Wizard of Oz.
The next morning, I watched her proudly clip clop her way down our driveway to the school bus. Her blue eyes beamed and sparkled as her bus driver greeted her with “ooohs” and “ahhhs” at the sight of the new shoes which gleamed like Rudolph's red nose in the morning darkness. I turned around and walked back inside smiling. Seeing her so happy, I decided I was glad I that I bought them for her. At that moment, I was reminded of how God our Father does the very same for us. He delights in giving us good things and He desires to bless us abundantly. Psalm 84:11 says, “For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord bestows favor and honor; no good thing does He withhold from those whose walk is blameless.” Good things come in many forms and are not always material. I can’t help but imagine how God must smile and enjoy watching our joy when He gives us good things as I did with Mikaela. Remember that God does not promise to give us everything we think we should have. But what He does promise is not to
withhold anything that is permanently good for us. God will give us a way to walk along His path, but we must do the walking...even if in a bright red pair of shoes.

Overcoming Fear - Child's Play? What I Learned on the Playground

2008-09-11T20:06:00.000-07:00

Life’s “light bulb” moments can sometimes happen unexpectedly and like seeing a shooting star they are usually a rare sight. Many envision having an enlightening “aha” moment after a three-month soul-seeking sabbatical in India or perhaps even some have hopes of finding the secret to life by a visit from a mystical Gandhi wannabe complete with a white sari, who decides to let you in on the secret the universe has been hiding from you all your life.

One of my life’s light bulb moments on the other hand, true to my world (as a mother of four) was experienced by watching my girls play on a jungle gym. Go figure. At first it was one of those fleeting thoughts, a mind-flash scrolling through the forefront of my never -still mind. There among the thousands of other thoughts like “what am I fixing for dinner” and “don’t forget to send that email in the morning” it flashed, like the stock ticker on the New York stock exchange. Had I not been using my mental TiVo and paused I may have completely missed it.
I had observed something very inconspicuous yet incredibly significant. One of my girls, Mikaela, with a little bit of encouragement and spotting from me had fearlessly climbed to the top of a very high and twisting red ladder onto the second story platform of a jungle gym. (I need to note this was not your typical playscape ladder. This baby was the kindergarten equivalent of Kilimanjaro - the Mount Everest of playscape ladders). Its rungs were about 12 inches apart and twisted like a strand of DNA around and around from the ground up about 9 feet. At the top, there was another 18 inch gap between the ladder and the platform requiring that you stretch out in a final leap-of-faith-like manner because for a quick moment you have to completely let go of the ladder leaving only your foothold as security and grab to leap up to the top platform. I was quite impressed when Mikaela (the least fearless of all my children) confidently climbed to the top. Her younger and very competitive sister, Mia was quick to follow. However, when Mia began her climb doubt and fear overcame her. She cautiously climbed half-way up but no amount of coaching, encouragement or pushing was going to help her. She began crying and asked me to pull her down. By this time Mikaela had made it down the slide and over to us for another climb. This time, seeing her sisters’ sheer fear and pain something changed in her. She too did the exact same thing, climbing half-way up only to change her mind a climb back down.

At first I was frustrated, I kept telling her “but you CAN do this and I promise I’d never let you fall”. What changed? I soon realized however, that fear had overcome her and logic and reason had disappeared like beer at a frat party. Ironically, it was not HER fear but seeing her sister afraid that stopped her. “Oh God, are you trying to teach me something here?” I thought. I had been battling my own fears boiling to the surface in my life and obviously it had come to the point that it required a “time out” with God so he could catch my attention and illustrate to me – on a jungle gym – how fear had been affecting my life. At first, I pictured myself as I had been climbing my own Kilimanjaro-like “ladder of life” and all I could do was cry like a baby and say, “I can’t do this, I’m too afraid...I want down!” All the while God is standing there saying “but you CAN do this and I promise I’d never let you fall.”

I chewed on this idea for months, thinking of the areas of my life affected by fear but more importantly what fear was keeping me from doing, who it was keeping me from loving and how it affected my thinking. Each time I pictured myself on that red ladder and asked myself, “What’s keeping you from going where you want to go?”

Fear is natural and in some respects a God-given survival instinct. We all have different fears – some which have deep roots and like any thing with deep roots, can’t be removed easily because in many cases we’ve had a life long relationship with it; fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of losing something or someone but the bottom line is at some point – if our fears are not addressed and overcome we are selling ourselves short. Fear sometimes has to be overcome one step at a time but if we are persistent it will eventually grow smaller and smaller. Next time fear comes into play in your life, picture the red ladder and ask yourself first, “If I fall will it really be the end of the world” but more importantly remember God is always there to catch us and teach us with his wonderful sense of humor.